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My Fatherā€™s Day

Fatherā€™s Day has always been interesting for me.  My first child, Keira, was supposed to be born in early July 2008.  She was born Friday, June 20th!  Even though she was severely jaundice our doctor let us take her home that Sundayā€¦Fatherā€™s Day.  As far as Iā€™m concerned there is no better gift for Fatherā€™s Day other than being able to bring home your first child.

I needed to lead with that short story because my kids have done everything in their power to ensure fatherā€™s day is not about me, but about them trying to see how far they can push me before I lose it.

Itā€™s also important that you understand that I have an awesome relationship with my kids.  Itā€™s one filled with FUN at the center of everything we do.  All kids need discipline and I certainly provide that, but most days Iā€™m more likely to laugh at them over getting upset.  We do fun things together all the time.  My family is the most important thing in my life.  Everything contained within this post was discussed with them and they (and Mom) approved sharing it with you.  Thereā€™s a pretty cool lesson at the end so I hope you get there because youā€™ll learn an awful lot about me.

This year all three of my kids, Keira-8, Charlotte-6 and Tyler-3 made me cards.  Keira is the only one that knows how to write and spell really well, so itā€™s obvious when you look at their cards that Keira wrote mostly everything. Regardless of that, these hand-made cards will go down in my lifeā€™s history as some of the funniest, honest and awesome cards Iā€™ve ever gotten.

Letā€™s start with Charlotte, my 6-year-old:

The front is all Charlotteā€™s hand writing!  At first glance I thought it said, ā€œHappy Fat hers Dad.ā€  But it clearly says ā€œHappy Fathers Day.ā€

I LOVE how she ran out of space for her name and just added the ā€œeā€ under the ā€œt.ā€

You may also be questioning the strange black symbol between the heart and ā€œCā€ in Charlotteā€™s name.  I asked Charlotte what that was and she said, as if I should know, ā€œohā€¦.thatā€™s a spacer dad.ā€  Gotcha!  ****Must rememberā€¦never question Charlotte.****

Now the back:

I was able to confirm from Charlotte that those pictures on the top are (from left to right:  A cat, wombat head, Charlotte, and me!)

Uhā€¦she gave me THREE hairs!  Iā€™m very much a realist, so I donā€™t hide the fact Iā€™m losing my hairā€¦.however, itā€™s BRUTAL to see that my daughter has given me just THREE hairs.  Donā€™t worryā€¦the honesty gets worse.

This next card was from my 3-year-old son Tyler.

While Tyler isnā€™t capable of writing letters that well, he is VERY capable of drawing.  He drew BARBIE for me.  WHY?

I asked him if he knew that was Barbie and he said (very enthusiastically) ā€œYEAH!ā€  I asked if he liked Barbie, and again he said ā€œYEAH!ā€   I then asked if he thought I liked Barbie (you know, because itā€™s a card for meā€¦not him).  It took him less than half-a-second to say ā€œYEAH!ā€  Wow.  I mean, Barbie is pretty hot and all, but there are a few things wrong with this.  Oneā€¦I had no idea my 3-year-old son knew who Barbie was.  This made it very obvious that heā€™s very aware of her presence.  Plus, he thinks I dig her too.  Barbie also doesnā€™t have any hands!  Tell me thatā€™s not a little creepy.

I donā€™t want to ignore the brown animal on the left.  I had to ask him what it was.  Again, he said in a way that made me feel like I should have knownā€¦.ā€itā€™s a brown dog!ā€  I didnā€™t even want to bring up the fact that it lacks ears.  The boy has a thing for Barbie.  I need to be careful now.  Heā€™s 3!

Then thereā€™s the back of his card:

His sister, Keira wrote the poem, and Iā€™m positive he had NOTHING to do with it.  It says, ā€œRoses are red vilots are blue I love cars and you!ā€

Yeahā€¦he does love cars.

And BARBIE!  If Tyler wrote this poem it would say, Roses are outside, Barbie is hot, I like baseball and cars A LOT!  Now that would be the perfect Tyler poem.

Last, but not least was the card my 8-year-old, Keira, made for me.  We had all been laughing so hard at everything at this point I should have known there would be more to come.

Okā€¦so this one needs some explaining to point out the issues.  Thatā€™s my wife, son and both girls with our dog on the left.  The problem with my son is that his eyes are brownā€¦.NOT blue.  Alsoā€¦our dog, a golden retriever named Gibbs is NOT fatā€¦or chubby.  Keira clearly drew him into a fat dog.  Poor guy.  But after reviewing the entire picture, I am the victim in this one.

Yeah, thatā€™s me on the right.  Uhā€¦I have TWO strands of hairā€¦and itā€™s a combover!  This is how my oldest daughter sees me.

Now letā€™s chat about my outfit / body.  Alsoā€¦Iā€™m chubby and not only is my left arm shorter than my rightā€¦I donā€™t have hands!  What is it with my kids not drawing hands on me?  Thatā€™s creepy!   Then thereā€™s my legs.  I DONā€™T HAVE ANKLES!  What is that?

As Iā€™m going through all this with her everyone is cracking up because weā€™re having a great laugh at whatā€™s happening.  (Not to mention weā€™re eating ice cream at a vicious, unhealthy pace.)  To say we were all having a great time is putting it lightly.

Itā€™s important you understand that Iā€™m not complaining at the content of these pictures at all.  Iā€™m a lot of things, but insecure and jealous are NOT part of those things I am.  If you canā€™t laugh at yourself youā€™re missing out on the best jokes youā€™ve ever heard!  Life is so much better and more fun to see things through your childrenā€™s eyes.  The constant message through all of their hand made cards is that I make them happy, they love me and my son loves Barbie!  Plusā€¦Iā€™m bald.  I knew that last one though.  Itā€™s not worth getting upset over though.  I canā€™t control itā€¦and if I had the money Iā€™d have hair like a horse.  LOL!

But Keira reminded me to read the back of her card.  Thatā€™s when I noticed I may have unintentionally given my daughter the wrong message as to how I feel about the family.

HERE WE GO:


The poem reads, ā€œRoses are red vilots are blue the world would be dead without you!ā€

Ummmmmā€¦.wow!  While I do think I add some value and light-heartedness to an otherwise stuffy world, I do NOT think my death would cause the world to end.

The worst part of this whole experience is the next line.

ā€œYou spend all day working your butt of for us.ā€  (She meant to say ā€œworking your butt OFF for us.)

I MAY have said that a few times to my wife and apparently my kids heard it.  And Iā€™m sure itā€™s not something sheā€™s only heard once.

I share this embarrassing moment with you because you can learn a lot about life by paying attention to the way your kids express themselves in drawings or stories.  Child psychologists use these methods to get an idea of a childā€™s state of mind.  Pictures and stories from your children are windows into their hearts.  Iā€™m not ashamed of what my kids sharedā€¦however I am slightly bothered that my daughter has heard me say something that requires context to understand.  The fact that I feel the need to say this to anyone within earshot of my children is something I need to work on.

I learned this lesson when Charlotte was only 2 and we were all leaving the park after a day of playing there. I had just finished buckling her into her car seat and as we started moving she said (as clear as day) ā€œDamnit!ā€

Againā€¦something I USED to say when I couldnā€™t get comfortable when my back would be hurting so bad.  I didnā€™t think they could hear it, but I obviously did it louder and much more frequently than I THOUGHT.

Soā€¦be careful what you say around your kids.  Their minds work much more differently than ours.  They have sponges that soak up everything.  They are also masters at copying behavior.  If you have bad habits they will quickly become their bad habits, and if you donā€™t care about it that makes you in desperate need of help.  Being a parent isnā€™t easy!  Itā€™s the hardest thing in the world you will ever do.  If you know youā€™re doing something wrong, get some help.

The best advice I can ever give is this:  LOVE YOUR KIDS and SPEND TIME WITH THEM!!!!!!!!  Have fun with them; let them see you being silly.  Being a grown up isnā€™t all about being serious all the time. If thatā€™s what you think I would hate to hang out with you.  Plusā€¦it must hurt when you go to the bathroom!  (Sorry, that was an adult joke.)

I love each one of my little ones so much.  Even though they make fatherā€™s day more about pushing my buttons than anything, I still love them.

I hope you learned a little more about me and my family AND that you or your man had a great Fatherā€™s Day!

ENJOY!

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