Fatherās Day has always been interesting for me. My first child, Keira, was supposed to be born in early July 2008. She was born Friday, June 20th! Even though she was severely jaundice our doctor let us take her home that Sundayā¦Fatherās Day. As far as Iām concerned there is no better gift for Fatherās Day other than being able to bring home your first child.
I needed to lead with that short story because my kids have done everything in their power to ensure fatherās day is not about me, but about them trying to see how far they can push me before I lose it.
Itās also important that you understand that I have an awesome relationship with my kids. Itās one filled with FUN at the center of everything we do. All kids need discipline and I certainly provide that, but most days Iām more likely to laugh at them over getting upset. We do fun things together all the time. My family is the most important thing in my life. Everything contained within this post was discussed with them and they (and Mom) approved sharing it with you. Thereās a pretty cool lesson at the end so I hope you get there because youāll learn an awful lot about me.
This year all three of my kids, Keira-8, Charlotte-6 and Tyler-3 made me cards. Keira is the only one that knows how to write and spell really well, so itās obvious when you look at their cards that Keira wrote mostly everything. Regardless of that, these hand-made cards will go down in my lifeās history as some of the funniest, honest and awesome cards Iāve ever gotten.
Letās start with Charlotte, my 6-year-old:
The front is all Charlotteās hand writing! At first glance I thought it said, āHappy Fat hers Dad.ā But it clearly says āHappy Fathers Day.ā
I LOVE how she ran out of space for her name and just added the āeā under the āt.ā
You may also be questioning the strange black symbol between the heart and āCā in Charlotteās name. I asked Charlotte what that was and she said, as if I should know, āohā¦.thatās a spacer dad.ā Gotcha! ****Must rememberā¦never question Charlotte.****
Now the back:
I was able to confirm from Charlotte that those pictures on the top are (from left to right: A cat, wombat head, Charlotte, and me!)
Uhā¦she gave me THREE hairs! Iām very much a realist, so I donāt hide the fact Iām losing my hairā¦.however, itās BRUTAL to see that my daughter has given me just THREE hairs. Donāt worryā¦the honesty gets worse.
This next card was from my 3-year-old son Tyler.
While Tyler isnāt capable of writing letters that well, he is VERY capable of drawing. He drew BARBIE for me. WHY?
I asked him if he knew that was Barbie and he said (very enthusiastically) āYEAH!ā I asked if he liked Barbie, and again he said āYEAH!ā I then asked if he thought I liked Barbie (you know, because itās a card for meā¦not him). It took him less than half-a-second to say āYEAH!ā Wow. I mean, Barbie is pretty hot and all, but there are a few things wrong with this. Oneā¦I had no idea my 3-year-old son knew who Barbie was. This made it very obvious that heās very aware of her presence. Plus, he thinks I dig her too. Barbie also doesnāt have any hands! Tell me thatās not a little creepy.
I donāt want to ignore the brown animal on the left. I had to ask him what it was. Again, he said in a way that made me feel like I should have knownā¦.āitās a brown dog!ā I didnāt even want to bring up the fact that it lacks ears. The boy has a thing for Barbie. I need to be careful now. Heās 3!
Then thereās the back of his card:
His sister, Keira wrote the poem, and Iām positive he had NOTHING to do with it. It says, āRoses are red vilots are blue I love cars and you!ā
Yeahā¦he does love cars.
And BARBIE! If Tyler wrote this poem it would say, Roses are outside, Barbie is hot, I like baseball and cars A LOT! Now that would be the perfect Tyler poem.
Last, but not least was the card my 8-year-old, Keira, made for me. We had all been laughing so hard at everything at this point I should have known there would be more to come.
Okā¦so this one needs some explaining to point out the issues. Thatās my wife, son and both girls with our dog on the left. The problem with my son is that his eyes are brownā¦.NOT blue. Alsoā¦our dog, a golden retriever named Gibbs is NOT fatā¦or chubby. Keira clearly drew him into a fat dog. Poor guy. But after reviewing the entire picture, I am the victim in this one.
Yeah, thatās me on the right. Uhā¦I have TWO strands of hairā¦and itās a combover! This is how my oldest daughter sees me.
Now letās chat about my outfit / body. Alsoā¦Iām chubby and not only is my left arm shorter than my rightā¦I donāt have hands! What is it with my kids not drawing hands on me? Thatās creepy! Then thereās my legs. I DONāT HAVE ANKLES! What is that?
As Iām going through all this with her everyone is cracking up because weāre having a great laugh at whatās happening. (Not to mention weāre eating ice cream at a vicious, unhealthy pace.) To say we were all having a great time is putting it lightly.
Itās important you understand that Iām not complaining at the content of these pictures at all. Iām a lot of things, but insecure and jealous are NOT part of those things I am. If you canāt laugh at yourself youāre missing out on the best jokes youāve ever heard! Life is so much better and more fun to see things through your childrenās eyes. The constant message through all of their hand made cards is that I make them happy, they love me and my son loves Barbie! Plusā¦Iām bald. I knew that last one though. Itās not worth getting upset over though. I canāt control itā¦and if I had the money Iād have hair like a horse. LOL!
But Keira reminded me to read the back of her card. Thatās when I noticed I may have unintentionally given my daughter the wrong message as to how I feel about the family.
HERE WE GO:
The poem reads, āRoses are red vilots are blue the world would be dead without you!ā
Ummmmmā¦.wow! While I do think I add some value and light-heartedness to an otherwise stuffy world, I do NOT think my death would cause the world to end.
The worst part of this whole experience is the next line.
āYou spend all day working your butt of for us.ā (She meant to say āworking your butt OFF for us.)
I MAY have said that a few times to my wife and apparently my kids heard it. And Iām sure itās not something sheās only heard once.
I share this embarrassing moment with you because you can learn a lot about life by paying attention to the way your kids express themselves in drawings or stories. Child psychologists use these methods to get an idea of a childās state of mind. Pictures and stories from your children are windows into their hearts. Iām not ashamed of what my kids sharedā¦however I am slightly bothered that my daughter has heard me say something that requires context to understand. The fact that I feel the need to say this to anyone within earshot of my children is something I need to work on.
I learned this lesson when Charlotte was only 2 and we were all leaving the park after a day of playing there. I had just finished buckling her into her car seat and as we started moving she said (as clear as day) āDamnit!ā
Againā¦something I USED to say when I couldnāt get comfortable when my back would be hurting so bad. I didnāt think they could hear it, but I obviously did it louder and much more frequently than I THOUGHT.
Soā¦be careful what you say around your kids. Their minds work much more differently than ours. They have sponges that soak up everything. They are also masters at copying behavior. If you have bad habits they will quickly become their bad habits, and if you donāt care about it that makes you in desperate need of help. Being a parent isnāt easy! Itās the hardest thing in the world you will ever do. If you know youāre doing something wrong, get some help.
The best advice I can ever give is this: LOVE YOUR KIDS and SPEND TIME WITH THEM!!!!!!!! Have fun with them; let them see you being silly. Being a grown up isnāt all about being serious all the time. If thatās what you think I would hate to hang out with you. Plusā¦it must hurt when you go to the bathroom! (Sorry, that was an adult joke.)
I love each one of my little ones so much. Even though they make fatherās day more about pushing my buttons than anything, I still love them.
I hope you learned a little more about me and my family AND that you or your man had a great Fatherās Day!
ENJOY!